Bulls**t Conversations

Don't you hate those people who says, "everything happens for a reason."

Hi, I am Rachaael! Thanks for letting me on your screen!

I am one of those hated people, and people get really annoyed when they try to complain to me about things that have happened in their lives. Before I go there, I want you to know... I used to be THAT person!

You know, the person who blames everyone else for where they are at. Holds grudges so they can use them as an excuse later why they do shitty things. The type of person that would only talk to you, to complain about other people or bad situations that happened. Until one day, I looked back and was disgusted with how I used to interact with people. Why was my focus always on the negative, was I looking for reinforcement? What exactly do I gain from getting someone else, who is also on the journey of life, to feel sorry for me. What does it do? It makes you look weak and become intolerable. Please, don't get this confused with venting your feelings to a best friend. I am talking about how you interact with everyone, are you always talking about the bad things? Did you even ask how they are doing? And I don't mean the typical :

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"Hey. how r u?"

"Good. U?"

"Good. Thanks."

"No prob."

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At this point, what is the point? That's what you are putting out there? I'd rather have someone say nothing than giving me that "bullshit conversation." My 20's were full of me giving and receiving all types of "bullshit conversations," and that's why I am even more appreciative of people with depth, these days.

I get in zombie mode when someone sends me that conversation above, these days. If I'm in a mood, I wont even respond. If I'm interested to see why they even sent a message, I wont even answer their question, I'll just ask my own, haha. That's when they usually go quiet and I don't hear from them again.

But damn, people with depth? Aw, they make life feel real, that I am actually engaging with my species; talking about how the brain works, how we are doing things to better adapt to our environment, what new books we are reading, mindset, where our focus is at and why, just shit that means something. These days, I want two way conversations, where both people engage, not just turn on zombie mode and barely even remember our interaction.

I realized a while ago I was going into zombie mode on all social media, people were replying to my posts, trying to engage me (beyond the smash or pass comments) and I wasn't responding at all. I sat there and thought, "damn hoe, who the fuck are you?" It slapped me in the face, these people that actually are interested in me and commenting and I am not even acknowledging them? Fucking rude. I make a point to take time out of the day just to check my comments. I get a couple days behind sometimes, but I want to make a point, to show anyone who comments that I see them, and I appreciate them taking the time. All the positive people, I want them to know I appreciate them! I appreciate their constant encouragement! And they deserve all the positive attention! I am so glad that my eyes were opened to appreciate the positive ones in my life, both online and in person.

I encourage you to look at how you interact with people, are you bringing positivity to their life? Or are you just throwing all your negativities into their pile? Just remember the people who are encouraging you, focus on them, encourage them, show them love, and always let them know how thankful you are for them!

On that note, I was full of "bullshit conversations," in my 20's so that I could better help people in my 30's by writing my random thoughts... See, things happen for a reason!